Differences Between Men and Women
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I was desperate to save my marriage. I’d had enough of the famous statement that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. No matter what planet men and women come from, I knew only one thing – we are on earth and we need to live together in harmony.
With this thought in mind, I decided to find ways to save my marriage. It wasn’t easy. In the process, I realized that men and women are indeed different. But they are equal too. Therefore, both the spouses deserve equal respect and love from each other.
Understanding The Facts
One thing that I learned while trying to save my marriage was that you shouldn’t expect the other person to change in order to suit your needs. Marriage implies two people living together under one roof; but, they still are individuals with their own thoughts and ideas. The problem arises when we, in our fairy tale dream world, thrust unrealistic expectations on our partner. It makes your partner feel as if he or she is not good enough for you.
Your partner usually won’t tell this to you. But, it’s true that they are hurt by your expectations. In my efforts to save my marriage, I often wondered, “What is it that makes love bloom before marriage? And why do people begin to feel suffocated once they tie the knot?” (The person who framed the words “tying the knot” was so right!)
In my pursuit to find ways to save a marriage, I came across the answer to the above stated question. Before marriage, we let our partner free. We didn’t nag them or try to control them. However, after marriage, we tend to think that we’ve possessed them. We begin pointing their habits that annoy us out to them. We expect them to see the world through our eyes. And this is perhaps the biggest blunder committed in a marriage.
How To Save A Marriage?
Men and women think and behave differently. We need to understand each other, not try to change the partner. Oh! Yes, there’s this little word “adjustment.” When this goes away, divorce happens!
Marriage is like a guitar. The partners are like strings, each having different notes. It’s important for the strings to work in co-ordination and harmony with each other in order to produce beautiful music. There are times when you’re unable to produce good music. That doesn’t mean you throw away or smash your guitar. You put in extra efforts to continue producing melodious music. Cherish your marriage as you would cherish your guitar.
So, instead of screaming, “I Want A Divorce!” say, “Save my marriage” before it’s too late!
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