“Save my marriage!” Once you say this, you’ve already expressed your willingness to put in extra effort in refurbishing your relationship. There are certain signs that warn you about your heading towards a bad relationship. If you work on them before it is too late, you can certainly save your marriage.
Steps On How To Save A Marriage
Communicating
The communication gap is one of the biggest reasons behind marriages falling apart. When you keep your feelings bottled up inside you, they develop into resentment over time. One fine day, you erupt like a volcano, thus destroying your relationship. Also, you start fighting over petty issues due to the frustration that you have developed by not communicating freely with your partner.
No, you need not scream at top of your lungs, “Save my marriage!” What you need to do is remain calm and collected while talking about an issue with your partner. If there’s something you don’t like about your mate, tell him. Never assume that your partner would know how you feel. The trick lies in an intelligent choice of words and being precise.
Listening
Men, take notice! The most common complaint from women is that men don’t listen. Listening is different from hearing. The former involves receiving and assimilating what the other person is saying with regard to their concern. Listen till your partner finishes up and is satisfied with what they say. You might be tempted to interfere or defend. This is the biggest mistake.
Processing
This involves pondering over what your partner said and formulating ways to change your habits to solve the problem.
Resolving
This involves discussing the issue with your partner and expressing a willingness to change yourself. You need to keep your ego aside. There are no ways to save a marriage where there is a clash of egos. So, instead of pleading in despair, “save my marriage”, say “sorry”. This little word has the power to save your marriage!
Imagine this: your partner comes home late. He doesn’t call to inform you about this. You are furious. You expect him to call but you have never said this to him. When he comes back home, you scream at him. Your partner reacts in the same manner. He doesn’t understand what you want. The situation gets so bad over time that you finally have to resort to the cry of “save my marriage!”
Now imagine this: your partner comes home late. He hasn’t called. You remain calm and explain to him that you would feel better if he had called up to say, “Honey, I would be late tonight.” Your partner would understand what you want. He would definitely promise to call you up in the future. You hug and kiss him! The issue is resolved!
Save my marriage? Eh? It already is saved!
