Why Communication Can Save your Marriage
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Save my marriage is a call that seems to be shouted more and more these days. Most of us believe that our marriages are worth saving, but we just don’t know how. There is one key that ranks above all the rest. One skill that must be practiced everyday: Communication. Our world is a connected through communication. There is the power of the internet, instant messaging, emailing, blogging, and cell phones. So why is it that marriage seems to suffer most from communication problems?
Perhaps it is because gradually we are learning to communicate better and better in a cyber world and less and less face to face. Many of us can carry on a conversation for hours over email or text messaging but put us in a room with an actual person and we stutter at what to say. We have to practice communicating face to face. Marriage relationships are not built in cyber space, they are built interacting with each other in our person daily lives.
Communicating is the idea of telling someone else what is going on in your heart and mind. That can be difficult to convey in words and often fall short but the attempt will bring you closer together and the more you try the more you understand. Explaining ideas with one another brings an intellectual bond. Sharing feelings with one another brings an emotional bond. Lastly, sharing the day’s happenings will bring you together socially.
Communication isn’t something you can put on the back burner and wait for it to fix itself. You have to work every day on it and give an honest effort to improvement. Being able to talk to each other doesn’t just happen when you make your vows or buy a house. Communicating with each other takes practice. Both parties need to learn what to say and how to say it.
Try these three tips to improve your communication. Look at your partner when they are talking. Try to face them in the eyes not just in their general direction. Tell stories but make sure they aren’t so long and drawn out that anyone would lose interest. Finally, acknowledge what the speaker is saying by asking questions, nodding, commenting every once in a while, just make sure the speaker know what you are listening. Communication in a marriage is vital and there is nothing that will replace it.
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